• For various reasons

Young adults increasingly delay leaving home

Angie López Arias
alopez@prensalibre.co.cr
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The desire for independence and live in an apartment was something that seduced young when I first turned 18 today, however, that "fly the nest" has been delayed more and more, so much more adult now 30 years still living with their parents.

The reasons that cause this are various, for example, pressing economic circumstances, which make many prefer to stay home to avoid incurring large costs, the desire to study and therefore delay (or discard) the plan of forming a family or However, for the simple convenience.

In some countries these people are called "adultescent" a term that refers to late adolescents who show no concern for seeking independence, not to say that this is bad, but it is not healthy, it can lead to emotional dependence it impossible for them to develop social skills and decision-making.

In other cases what happens is that adults also return to the home of his parents after a failed marriage or because they turned out to live alone, which can alter family dynamics, if there are no clear boundaries and rules.

Comfort

The psychologist at Focus on the Family, Catherine Hogg said that one of the main reasons why this may occur is because in our country there is a paternalistic culture in which families are in terms of supporting children as long as possible.

Added to this, Hogg believes that now people are looking for convenience by the high cost of living, as it is more comfortable staying at home to pay rent and make a significant contribution to home instead of incurring the expense involved in having independent living.

"Even the house is symbolized as a five star hotel, then how will they leave that they find comfort in the home. It also gives the children return home from their parents after a divorce, with a different expectation which causes problems because the parents already had a scheme established that the son or daughter comes to alter, "said Hogg.

For the specialist, ideally one that is emotionally healthy development in the person, so if the situation does not affect him or his family, there has to be seen as tragic, although it is recommended that at a certain when there is a complete emancipation process.

Dependence

Many parents may see this situation favorably because they have their "children" at home, but others see with amazement and distress to which their children are still with them without thinking of a life plan that allows them to develop as mature and independents.

"For emotional attachments or a matter of convenience can be problematic, because you need a physical and emotional dependency, children are to make their own decisions, but living with parents is done, it is necessary independence in all way, "said Hogg.

According to the psychologist, whether it is an emotional attachment that the person can not develop in a healthy way and it will be difficult to make decisions alone.

"The ideal time to leave the house depends on the person's emotional development, there will be those between 25 and 28 years are an emotional strength that allows them to live independently, others no older. Communication is essential to define what you want and need to find a balance, children must understand that they are in space but of the parents, "said Hogg.

Exit

For the psychologist, Erick Quesada, new generations are giving priority to the issue of professionalization and consolidation work, so also postpone marriage or independence, while able to finish a race and position in the labor market.

According to Quesada, children must leave home when they feel the need to have their own space, to live under their own rules and want to live in complete independence, these are the signs that tell the person to decide when to leave and leave the warmth of home.

"It is normal to experience fear because it is facing something new, may have doubts, but must develop the emotional skills needed to live alone, as self-care and time management and economic reorganization. But that's where the person grows, when many years of being at home gives you more afraid, "he said.

"If we postpone the departure of home may have difficulty in projecting consequences and make decisions, generate more fear and can lead to problems," said Quesada.

Taken from www.prensalibre.co.cr

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