Emotional past and relationships
Impacts emotional past couple relationships
• You can have great influence on issues
• Experiences with past relationships and even situations children can have a major impact on dating or marriage
By Angie Lopez
On a person's emotional can negatively impact your current relationship. You can avoid both conflicts have been unable to heal their wounds. Situations of infidelity, suffering or tragic end of an engagement or marriage, may have a large influence on how a relationship alive today, and this can cause conflicts or problems, which, it is best to try to resolve experiences past not to interfere in this.
But not only past relationships can influence, but also situations in childhood may eventually cause dependency problems either emotional or otherwise, of difficulty in establishing links with other people, which inevitably leads to conflict and difficult situations .
"The stories and past experiences in terms of relationships they can affect current relationships, even some past situations, especially children, may also influence it is in that stage where they are building self-esteem of individuals and self, "said the psychologist, Erick Quesada.
According to the expert, when complex situations have been experienced in previous relationships may have repercussions later in the both the person was unable to overcome the impact generated, which is why when you live a difficult experience in this regard, it is best to wait a time to heal wounds, and if necessary, seek professional help.
Complex
Quesada said that when a person has had one or more relationships unsatisfactory or not ended up healthy, accumulating a number of fears or doubts about herself in her role as partner or the type of person you want room, which then translate into insecurities and problems.
"You might be a difficulty develops in the relationship because there are reservations, but in other cases the opposite occurs and become rather leave people feeling, are passionate about and go over even generate an emotional dependence, both cases are related to life history that influence these relationships, "he said.
In terms of childhood experiences, the problems can be caused by dissatisfaction with unmet basic needs in terms of affection, approval and security, these elements are very important during childhood and whether some of these there is a failure The development of the person is not always healthy.
"When a person from childhood is adequately meeting these needs for affection, approval and safety, creates a realistic and self-confidence, therefore, someone with these three skills are more likely to engage in healthy relationships based on respect more horizontal and based on enjoyment, "he said.
Issues
Conversely, when not adequately meet these needs, the person establishes a need to search for affection, such approval was not in childhood or safety that gave the home, which will cause problems relationships you have in the future.
"The problem is that the relationship started badly and it set demands that are often unconscious and this can damage or complicate the relationship as the partners are not in the link as a matter of enjoyment, but to satisfy demands emotional originate from other needs that were not resolved and that's when the situation worsens, "he said Quesada.
The expert said that all this can lead to problems of jealous suspicion that the person has in itself, which can be both associated with a need to control your partner may also be present claims and demands constant affection disproportionate.
"The problem is that people are not educated to engage in healthy relationships and assertive human relations in general, what is done is to reproduce patterns learned. The first thing to do to prevent a situation where the past interferes emotional awareness that is not healthy to have a relationship that leaves more frustration than satisfaction or problems, people can be used to this but it is not healthy, "said Quesada.
If you are in a situation like this is better to seek to understand where they come from conflict and to find a solution to them.
From: www.prensalibre.co.cr
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